New Research Shows Separated Parents Struggle With Loneliness, Money and Travelling To See Children

New research shows the problems that separated parents face during the Christmas period with loneliness, money, travel and interfering ex-partners being flagged as major concerns.

Specialist family lawyers at Irwin Mitchell, along with the Voices in the Middle charity, are urging separated couples to put their children first as they approach the holiday period as modern families are often more complicated in their make up with second and third marriages becoming more common in the past decade.

Official statistics show that around 50,000 children are involved in divorces each year meaning many young people will be facing Christmas as part of a separated family for the first time this year.

Now a survey of 1,000 separated parents by Irwin Mitchell shows that 75% of children are under 15 years old when facing their first holiday season since the family split.

The research also shows that 30 per cent of parents who have children from a previous relationship will not see their child on Christmas day while two thirds of parents say they don’t make agreements with their ex-partner on how much they are each going to spend on their children

Just 38% of parents will let their child decide where to spend Christmas but the majority (61%) of children will wake up on Christmas Day morning at their mother’s house.

The top two greatest challenges reported by mothers during their first Christmas spent as a divorced/separated parent were finding the money to fund Christmas (29%) and loneliness (19%).  While fathers said they were most worried by loneliness (28%) and the distance they had to travel to see their child (19%).

Irwin Mitchell works closely with the charity Voices in the Middle which helps support young people through separation and divorce by providing them with advice from others in similar situations.

Duncan Fisher, founder of Voices in the Middle, said: “Holiday periods should be a time when people are excited about spending time together and with their children but obviously for separated couples this can be the cause of tension which can have a major impact on those involved. We aim to provide a voice for young people who may not always be able to have their voices heard or know who to talk to.

“The research by Irwin Mitchell shows the struggles that many parents, and children, face over Christmas and it is only by good communication and trying to work together that parents will be able to make the most out of the festive season.”

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