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Pathways to Parenthood: Adoption and Surrogacy in the LGBTQ+ Community



The recent BBC drama series “Lost Boys and Fairies” has touched the hearts of viewers, delving into the intricate journey to parenthood. Following Gabriel and Andy, a gay couple eager to adopt, the show mirrors real-life experiences while shedding light on the legal complexities involved.


Adoption is a pathway to parenthood for many LGBTQ+ couples, echoing the themes portrayed in the program. The series guides viewers through the initial steps of adoption: assessments, home visits, and the pivotal role of social workers. Understanding legal requirements, completing paperwork, and undergoing assessments are critical to prevent complications later in the process. 

The show highlights that LGBTQ+ couples no longer need to be in a civil partnership or married to adopt; they simply need to live together in an enduring relationship, and that single adopters can also adopt regardless of their sexual orientation. 

Upon adoption, parental responsibility and legal parenthood shifts from birth parents to adoptive parents. In some cases, birth parents may maintain contact post-adoption if it serves the child’s best interests. Each case is unique, emphasising the need for tailored legal advice.


For LGBTQ+ families, surrogacy offers another route to parenthood. Prospective parents must seek advice before embarking on this journey, as surrogacy operates differently in law compared to adoption. While surrogacy laws vary globally, in England and Wales, intended parents must apply for parental orders to ensure their legal status aligns with their reality on the ground.

Parenthood’s Multifaceted Nature

“Lost Boys and Fairies” reminds us that parenthood is multifaceted. Whether through adoption or surrogacy, legal processes intersect with emotional resilience. With the support of high-quality legal advice and emotional guidance, LGBTQ+ families can create love-filled homes for their children, through whichever pathways to parenthood they choose to build their families.